Learn and be aware of how most of the self-help content suggest you to pretend what you are not and imitate behaviors of others, that might help you. Such pretension does not bring any real change in our life.
A guru is an energetic guide in life and spiritual journey for a seeker. A seeker slowly learns to trust that feeling of guru, and that guiding force in life.
A capability for true sharing arises in a person when he can respect others who don’t have what he has. It is often the result of genuine spiritual growth.