This is a resonance because it will only find you if and when you need it.
The self-help industry and society in general label so many alive, vibrant people as wounded or broken just because they don’t follow the script of society.
I have met so many so-called unbroken people living normal lives. A life that is most trending, that goes well with society, that is, as per the scripts of society. Yet I always miss that true aliveness in their presence. Yes, they have a consistency to their life, a sort of discipline, a permanence.
Yet I can’t help but feel that they are a bit untouched by life. To be touched by life is to be either broken down or expanded in ways that are not comprehensible. To be touched by life is to awaken to this aliveness – to inhale at times and to exhale at times. To be touched by love is to have someone move through you in ways that you don’t remain who you are anymore. And that means sometimes you are wounded, and sometimes you are receiving gifts you didn’t ask for. So the greatest thing you can see if you really feel heartbroken is to know that you did love sincerely, and the cost of that is sometimes wounds.
Still look at your journey, in one go, you say “I feel broken,” and then another sentence you say “I would like to heal.” Because no matter how deeply you get wounded, there is something in you that won’t rest until it finds aliveness again. And that something in you is not really you; it is life that is moving within you, that longs to move through you again. It will risk everything again and again just to make you feel alive. And that is the only way to be alive, to be torn apart by life again and again and let yourself be put together again and again. Nobody ever promised you that permanent state of bliss, love, or the happily ever after. Yes, maybe movies, TV shows, parents, lovers promised, but not life. Life has always been honest; you are born, and you will die. Life has been only honest about one thing- that it will move through you, and in that, you will feel alive.
Normally, if you feel broken, you imagine that to be healed is to become something or someone that can’t be broken anymore; can never be wounded. But you see that this desire to be invincible is simply the other side of the coin that is wound. To desire such is to make yourself barely alive, almost dead, because to be invincible is to deny anything outside to touch you. And to be untouched by life is to be dead inside.
So maybe I hope you see one day that, to be truly healed, is to simply drop the past as it is, and again be empty. To be open to life, to be soft again like a child that you were, so that life can touch you again. And of course, one sentence can’t justify this process. It will be millions of times the wounds will keep coming up in small, small moments in life, and you would have to choose between letting it go rather than defining you. You will stumble again and again—but that too is part of what makes you alive. So to truly heal is to be simply empty, and open to life again, yet fully knowing this time that wound is a real possibility. In that emptiness, you see that you can always come back to this space within you. And in this, you let life move through you, making you feel alive again and again.
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