Uniqueness
What resonates – what philosophy, what view of the world, what way of being – remains deeply unique to each of us. Like each tree in a jungle is unique, each branch in a tree is unique, each leaf in a branch is unique, so is each of us. Our uniqueness flows from our essence: the life we have lived, the past that has shaped us, the wounds and wonders we carry, and the future we are continually unfolding into.
Yet in the same jungle, many trees share similar seeds, many branches share the same trunk, and many leaves share the same stem. We, too, share such common roots, those tender, not-yet-fully-grown seeds of human experience. In my own essence, I feel profound closeness to Osho, Alan Watts, Rumi, Zan Perrion, David Whyte and many more I am slowly discovering.
As you grow, you will come to see that we walk alone in our individuality: no one has ever been like us, and no one will ever be like us. We become like trees grown from the same seed, utterly distinct. Yet the seeds are the same – a connection in similarity. The seeds of our shared human experience, personality, childhood, trauma, wounds, struggle and longing. So here are the seeds that you might recognise in you.
Introverts
When the outside world feels heavy, unsafe, noisy, messy, crowded, there are some whose inner tendency is to go back to solitude and silence. This is the natural tendency and correct tendency – for only in solitude does the noise of the outside world vanish. You get to see yourself clearly, and out of that you feel more energetic, nourished and alive. This is the way of the introvert – a life lived from within. A beautiful and natural way.
Yet sometimes, when the world feels too unsafe, this retreat becomes a kind of shrinking. Not a choice but a compulsive contraction. They hold things inside them – their depth, vision, unique insights, with a quiet ache. The ache of having a rich inner world, yet rarely finding someone who can witness it, understand it, or cherish it.
The real seed of an introvert is the unmanifested inner reality. Those insights and depths are seeds waiting to sprout. They want to become a living reality – a manifestation in the outside world.
Intellectuals
There are some people whose natural tendency is not emotional first, not physical first, but intellectual. Their mind becomes their sharpest instrument, the place they return to for safety, clarity, and control. In Sanskrit, this discerning faculty is buddhi, “the intellect”, the part of us that analyses, categorises, and dissects life to understand it.
There is nothing wrong with intellect; it is a profound gift. The problem begins when intellect becomes more than a tool, when it becomes an identity, a shield against the rawness of life. Modern society worships thinking, logic, and analysis. We are raised to believe that if we think enough, we will somehow understand everything, even emotions, relationships, loneliness, and love.
But intellect has a limitation: it can cut reality into pieces, yet it cannot feel the wholeness of life. Many intellectual people sense this paradox; the more they analyse, the more disconnected they feel; the more they try to understand life, the further they drift from actually living it. A subtle disconnection appears, a lack of connection with life. The heart wants to experience, but the mind keeps insisting on understanding everything.
When an intellectual person starts to see this disconnection and asks:
What if the very part of me that is trying to solve everything can not solve everything?
This question marks the beginning of a new inquiry – not of analysis but of awareness. A shift from dissecting life to living it. A shift from compulsive thinking to experiencing.
Loneliness and Addiction
There comes a time in some people’s lives when a deeper kind of loneliness appears, not the loneliness of being without company, but a sharp, persistent sense of disconnection. A 24×7 emptiness that sits quietly inside, untouched by the presence of others, unaffected by what you own or achieve. It does not dissolve when you are with friends, nor does it soften when life seems to be going well. It simply remains.
Most people never touch this depth of emptiness, so the advice they offer is: “Just find someone.” “Find your passion.” or “Find your purpose” – it will go away. And from this misunderstanding begins the journey into addiction. Not addiction in a clinical sense, but a subtle everyday addiction – compulsive movement towards anything that promises temporary relief from the emptiness. Some turn to food, sex, or pornography. Others to money, status, art, science, shopping, movies, travel, TV shows, or constant entertainment. Many chase relationships, hoping someone will finally fill the inner gap.
The mental-health and self-help world often labels these people as “broken,” suggesting something is fundamentally wrong within them. But this is only because most people, including many professionals, have never encountered this level of existential emptiness themselves.
So for few who feel this existential level of loneliness: look at it as an invitation. A journey into understanding the true nature of loneliness, what it really is, and where it comes from. What you find might really, really surprise you.
Sensitive People
To me, to be sensitive is to be close to life. Life in its truth is impermanent. Everything changes: relationships, thoughts, emotions, mindset, view, idea, everything changes. And each change feels like breathing – sometimes inhaling, sometimes exhaling, sometimes being alive, happy, pleasurable and sometimes lost, and horrifying pain. Yet the whole human society’s foundation is the search for permanence- permanent philosophy, ways of life (society, culture), permanent relationship.
To be sensitive is you feel this extreme change and impermanence in your life. Especially in your thoughts and emotions. The world tells them you are too much; you should try to control yourself, you should learn to fit into a society that is not designed for you.
They embody life itself, and life wants to change, move, dance, inhale, exhale. But society has taught them through 1000s years of mental conditioning that this impermanence of who they are is wrong. Most sensitive people live in this extreme inner conflict and struggle with who they think they should be and the life force within that wants to move vigorously. This creates a deep shame and guilt for being sensitive, and it feels horrible, as if you are dropped into a battlefield. And rarely do they meet anyone who actually embodies sensitivity as their nature, not anxiety-driven living.
Most of the self-help out there for sensitive people is how to manage life and fit into a society that is not designed for them. I had always promised myself that one day I would find a way that feels natural, effortless, yet rooted in my sensitivity. This work is out of that promise.
Sensitive Men
Most women are often naturally sensitive and close to life’s impermanence. But confusing problems appear when you are born into a male body and embody a heightened level of sensitivity. The old traditional model of masculinity of strong, stable, non-emotional seems like a facade and almost impossible to maintain when you are sensitive. If you really start digging deeper, much of modern society is built on a single commandment: control your emotions. All societal structures, including the financial structure, are founded upon this commandment. And perhaps that is why women still say the world feels patriarchal. It will always feel like that when the very way to live is by controlling life energy and emotion.
Every sensitive man knows the rejection that follows. Society openly rejects their sensitivity, their emotional range, and their depth of feeling – calling it weak, childish and women-like. This rejection is visible. But there is another, more subtle rejection that comes from women. Throughout the long history of humanity, women have been conditioned to believe that their own emotional fluctuation, their sensitivity, is illogical or wrong – and it is now a deep-seated belief in the human psyche. In rejecting parts of themselves, they reject sensitivity in men, too. So a strange contradiction comes from women: “Yes, I want a sensitive man,” because a part of them longs to accept their own sensitivity and at the same time there is an unconscious rejection of that very sensitivity, both in themselves and in him. This rejection is very subtle, unspoken and confusing if only looked at from the outside.
So highly sensitive men often face multiple unique problems. The traditional masculinity of controlling your emotions and therefore life energy does not work anymore. As your sensitivity grows, you simply can’t do it. Your bodily nervous system won’t allow logical override over your emotions anymore. If you try to control your emotions – you literally feel pain in your body. A simple example, you have to do a work, but your emotional state does not align with working right now. if you force yourself to work, you literally feel real pain in your body. So how do you manage this level of emotion?
Another is that your relationship with women starts to shift drastically. The traditional men-women romantic relationship has always been based on strong, stoic masculinity and emotional femininity. There is an old push-pull between men and women. Men feeling frustrated that women are so emotional and telling them to control their emotions, and women complaining about the ignorance of men and trying to make them understand the world of emotions. As the sensitivity of a man grows, he starts to be capable of understanding the subtle emotional state of both himself and others. Because of this, the old romantic charge and conflict collapses. The romantic charge gets replaced with a familiar friendship energetically. The superficial dating coaches label this problem or collapse as: men are not man enough, nice guys, emotional men. They give 100s of advice on how to be masculine; how you should be with your emotions and with women. But you can trace all this advice to a single point: control your emotions. But you see the paradox, once you’re sensitive, you can’t control your emotions anymore. It is simply not possible to go back to the old masculinity structure anymore; it won’t work anymore. This not fitting into the old masculine structure creates deep shame and guilt in sensitive men. And most sensitive men spend years, if not decades, trying to be masculine by controlling, forcing emotions to behave in a certain way, yet failing miserably.
Then every sensitive man one day sits with himself and asks:
What is my relationship to the level of emotion and energy that I carry within myself?
What is my relationship to life?
What is my relationship to women?
And in these questions lies a journey to a new dimension of masculinity. A control of life and emotion comes, not out of force but out of surrender. A stability comes beyond the outward appearance of stability and instability. And you will find that this requires a radically different understanding of life, emotions, and human relationships than what the current human society is founded upon.
Hyperactive Mind and Unconscious Body: Disembodiment
Especially in the last 50 years, we have become a society totally obsessed with the mind and the brain. We have become so intellectual that we think everything can be solved with our brains. We always know what we should do in our head; we have memorised morality, but we fail actually to live by it in real life. We have no idea how much we are disconnected from our own bodies, and in this, we have become a society of hyperactive minds and repressed bodies.
In tantra, it is said that our lower energy centres are related to the physical body and higher energy centres are related to the mind. Think of the higher energy centre (mind) as the upper part of a tree (branches, leaves) and the lower energy centre (body) as the trunk and roots of the tree. A painful experience of life comes when the physical body is repressed, unconscious, and that leads to almost all mental health issues. In simple terms, think of a tree that has grown upward without any roots. Without roots, you become extremely unstable. Everything in life throws you around, and your experience of life is chaos and instability. An experience of disconnection from physical reality and disembodiment.
It requires subtle awareness to recognise the body’s repression or disembodiment. I am writing about the three main aspects of life, so that you may recognise what happens with the repressed body.
Roots: Belonging and Safety
A repressed body creates a deep disconnection from this planet. You carry a quiet, constant feeling that you don’t truly belong here on earth as if you don’t fit in anywhere at all. The current mental health industry calls it ‘Abandonment Trauma’. But in truth, it is the feeling of constant insecurity, unsafety, and the fear of not belonging. This shows most clearly in your relationship with money. In our society, safety is so often linked to wealth, and money becomes the substitute for real existential rootedness. Without a conscious lower body, two patterns usually appear: You chase money obsessively, addicted to the pursuit, hoping it will finally bring safety. Or you reject it completely, hating wealth or avoiding it, as if material things are somehow wrong. Neither gives the true, felt sense of safety and belonging.
Sexuality and Creativity
There is a deep-rooted 1000-year legacy of distorted sexuality shaped by past religions across the world. It does not simply disappear. In Eastern societies such as India, children grow up with sexuality never fully acknowledged. Most never see their parents touching each other lovingly, never hear about it being talked about in the family openly. That is why most grow with deep disrespect for sexuality – as if it is something to fear, hide, or consider unnatural. The opposite has happened in many Western societies – a total indulgence of sexuality. There is so much openness about it, yet underneath it all, there is still a deep fear: sex often feels like something to perform, to prove, or to escape into, rather than something simple and naturally honoured. When the mind takes control of sexuality, it either fears it (repression) or puts it on a pedestal (indulgence). And both lack the respect, honour and beauty of sexuality that is natural.
A real sign of unconscious sexuality (both repression and indulgence) is that it comes out of the mind, not from the body. Furthermore, it gets entangled with fantasies, childhood trauma, hurt, escape from reality and most importantly, the feeling of safety. For example, some try to re-create safety by becoming extremely dominant, and some try to feel safe by becoming extremely submissive. So when the mind controls sexuality, not the body, sexuality becomes distorted.
Sexuality, in its essence, is the capacity to create. All life around us keeps creating itself continuously through sexuality. And metaphysically, sexuality is your creativity. And an unconscious sexuality (repression and indulgence) blocks creativity in life. Life does not become a constantly unfolding of creativity because sexuality is unconscious.
Health, Boundaries and Power
A simple thing to observe in life is that health is deeply related to digestion and the food we eat. Food is the main thing we take from outside the body, and it must be digested, assimilated, and transformed, while what is not needed is released. Through this process, the body grows, repairs, and maintains itself. Most of us not eat from real bodily hunger, but out of habit, routine, or emotional need. To recognise the difference between true hunger and habit requires a conscious body. When the body is unconscious, the mind takes over eating through rules, schedules, and ideas about nutrition. This is why perhaps we are the only species today on the planet that are confused about what food we should eat. We need studies, diets, and rules, hoping the mind will compensate for what the body no longer communicates. Almost all digestive issues, such as acidity, bloating, and constipation, can’t be truly cured by modern medicine. It can only be managed. And all digestive issues can be linked to emotional and mental health in many ways.
Beyond physical health, the feeling of self-worth, personal power, confidence and boundaries are deeply linked to the lower body. If you take control of these feelings through your mind, you get into trouble in life. Either you become too much boundariless or you become too rigid, either you are afraid of people or you make other people fearful in your presence, either you have no sense of any self-worth, you feel helpless, or you are running around the world thinking you know everything with arrogance.
If you try to manage safety, money, sexuality, self-worth, power, confidence, and boundaries with your mind, it goes to extremes. And all extremes get you in trouble in life. We have all heard that we should try to balance ourselves. But what if I tell you that balance is not the nature of the mind? What if I tell you that balance is the nature of who you are when your body and mind are in harmony with each other?
Tree of Love
When we ask ourselves what we want in ourselves, in others, and in relationships, we often arrive at similar words: kindness, care, beauty, admiration, appreciation, loyalty, respect, goodness. We call this love.
And yet, so often it does not last. It fractures under pressure. We find ourselves saying, love is not enough. What we usually mean is that love, as we have learned it, cannot hold the full truth of life. It can’t sustain the reality of life: money, fear, sex, shame, hunger, ambition, power, fantasies, unfulfilled desires, and various limitations.
Imagine love as the fruits and flowers of a tree: visible, beautiful, nourishing. But every tree stands on roots that remain hidden beneath the ground. Most of us have been taught to focus only on the fruits: to behave loving, loyal, respectful, and to appear kind. By morality, we are taught how to pretend to behave like a loving person. But morality without roots is like plastic fruit. It may look convincing, but it does not nourish. It cannot withstand storms. It exists to be displayed, not to be lived. This is why our fruit of love is not out of a full-grown tree with deep roots, but by pretension, a kind of acting out of morality. So we say love is not enough.
In recognising this in me, I realise the real work of love is in the roots of who we are. To truly grow the fruit of love is to work on the things that give root to my life. To awaken to love is to bring awareness to the view of money, sex and hunger. To awaken is to bring awareness of the deep-seated anger, pain, fear of not belonging, sexual fantasies, greed, ambition, desires, and ultimately the body.
And once the roots are strong, the tree of life automatically bears the fruit of love effortlessly. I want spirituality to be about the practicalities of life, not about fantasies of enlightenment and heaven, but the reality of life.
These are the seeds unfolding in my body and mind, growing toward the tree they can become. This blog is simply the space for that unfolding. And if something here resonates, perhaps it is because similar seeds live in you too, waiting to be seen.
Something quiet and extraordinary happens when you allow yourself to unfold into your own authenticity, when the seeds within you begin to grow in their own way. Life starts to feel less forced. Even the struggle and suffering that come with growth begin to feel meaningful.
Yet life is uncertain and imperfect. I do not know what will happen. These seeds may grow to bear fruit, or they may never fully grow.
Life will take care of everything. And even if it does not, that too is okay. This should be the attitude. -Osho
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